Building and Maintaining Healthy Relationships

Happy Valentines Day! The holiday of love is upon us. We, at Revolar, wish everyone a safe, happy, and loving day! Enjoy time spent with your loved ones and remember the moments you’ve cherished together while also continuing to build new memories. 

We’ve decided to write this article as an ode to Valentine’s Day and to the people who work each and every day to create healthy relationships around themselves. Below, we’ve included a few great ways to begin building positive, meaningful relationships and some tips for keeping these relationships healthy and strong:

  • A Strong Foundation - Every healthy relationship begins with a strong base with which to build. Both people need to enjoy being together and must be open and willing to communicate their thoughts. You must be able to develop a mutual respect with your significant other and understand that your partner’s needs are just as important as yours. The ability to compromise and to work through decisions together will make both of you happier and will, in turn, make doing things with your partner much more fun!
  • Trust and Privacy - Both members of a relationship are individual people. Being in a relationship does not mean that every activity needs to be done together. You should never be required to provide Facebook or smartphone passwords to your significant other. But, you need to be able to go to meetings, social gatherings, and other community events individually without issue. Everybody needs privacy at times and it’s necessary for couples to understand this about each other. Trust and a bit of privacy go a long way in building and maintaining a healthy relationship.
  • Support - Simply be there to support each other’s interests and goals in good and bad times. Your significant other needs to build you up as you work on your career, fitness, side project, etc. And you need to be equally as supportive of their dreams. If your partner doesn’t support things that you are interested in, then the relationship will never work. Your significant other should be the strongest link in your support system. But if they aren’t, it can affect your happiness and even some of your relationships with friends, family, and coworkers.

  • A few things you may notice if your relationship isn’t as healthy as you’d like it to be:

    • You are constantly doing things you don't want to do. Do your “compromises” always seem to fall in the favor of your partner? Make sure that you’re taking care of your own health and happiness. A great relationship will make you happier and healthier, not anxious and tired.
    • You feel disconnected from your support system. When you enter a relationship with a new person, it’s normal to start spending more time with this person and a little less time with other friends. However, over time, if you find that you rarely speak with or see some of your closest friends or family members due to your relationship, then that relationship may not be right for you. A healthy relationship will not force you to halt everything in your life and start over.
    • Do you continuously disagree with your partner? Do you feel that they need to change just a few things about themselves? Remember that a person will only change something about themselves if they want to. If these issues are too large to overlook and bother you endlessly, then you shouldn’t be in that relationship. Both of you will be happier if you are able to simply be yourselves at home.
    • Think about your safety. If your relationship feels physically, mentally, or emotionally unhealthy, then it probably is. Don’t tie yourself to an anchor dragging you down, tie yourself to a balloon pulling you up. If you ever feel that you’ve been violently assaulted or abused, remember that you’re not alone. The following hotlines are there to assist you:

    RAINN’s National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673)

    National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 

    Thank you for helping to make this world a safer, happier place. Share this with your friends and have a discussion about building healthy relationships. You can always give your loved ones additional peace of mind with a Revolar Personal Safety Device, too.

    Again, Happy Valentine’s Day from us to you! Laugh, live, and be merry with your loved ones! Not only today, but for the rest of your days.


    The Revolar Team